Somewhere I Belong

There is something to be said for women having other women in their lives that they can relate to, care about, support, encourage, cry with, laugh with, vent to, to love and to trust – who are accepting, understanding and absolutely authentic on every level.

I used to come from a place of feeling like I did not fit in or have a group of friends that I belong to and now, I have healed that broken girl, spilled open my soul, stood there with my arms wide open and my heart ready for what has been around me all along. I walked into sisterhood and for the first time in a very long time, I know I belong…right here, right now, I belong. No, it isn’t the same as my young girl (even adult woman) mind thought it had to be. It is different but it is real. Dig down deep real. Being vulnerable enough to say what I feel without judgment, only understanding and unearth the rawness within and just let people do one of two things… accept me or reject me. I don’t control who does what, I only control how I react to it. And how long I stay in that reaction. I control how I will move forward in my life’s journey with either choice made by people placed around me. I will no longer be defined by their choices. I am not chained to their decisions.

We first have to heal ourselves, trust the process and get real. We all are here longing to belong, fit in, find connection and be accepted. Do not put limits on how others love you, just let them love you their way. And make sure you are ready to love in return. Get out of your own way, give grace and come alive with relationships that fuel you. Real relationships are born out of naked vulnerability and thrive on joy and love, trust and acceptance. Be bold enough to stand in your truth and be open all that can be yours. Be free.

Thank you to those who have wrapped me in their love & acceptance. I hope you know how much love I have for you too. <3

The truth is: Belonging starts with self-acceptance. Your level of belonging, in fact, can never be greater than your level of self-acceptance, because believing that you’re enough is what gives you the courage to be authentic, vulnerable and imperfect. When we don’t have that, we shape-shift and turn into chameleons; we hustle for the worthiness we already possess. ~ Brene Brown